Moonlight Ponderings

Lynn's thoughts on life.

Monday, February 07, 2005

I am utterly and completed disgusted at what I have seen on Channel 5 tonight. Rich and I were watching a program entitled "The Most Outrageous TV Moments Ever" and the commentators were so incredibly anti-American!! It was completely unbelievable. And then, as if that wasn't bad enough, Vanessa Feltz made a comment that made me angrier than I have ever in my whole life been. She was commenting on something that Ali G had done in the US (in the South, obviously, because you know we're all redneck hicks *sarcasm*), and she said that it was deserved by those "cretinous" people in "that part of America"!!! I was sooooo shocked that this was actually broadcast on national television!! I have sent a complaint to Channel 5. Here it is below.

Dear Sirs,

I'm writing to express my anger and disgust at this programme. Not the "outrageous" clips - which ranged from the frankly tame to the merely unpleasant without inspiring more than a shudder from me - but the grossly offensive and ill-judged remarks of your motley collection of commentators. In particular, as an American living in Britain, I was increasingly incensed by the steady accumulation of slanders against my country and my countrymen.

I understand it is the British custom to make mock of Johhny Foreigner and since 1776 you have, as a nation, taken particular delight in caricaturing the "Yanks" (another term I find personally offensive having been born and raised in the South); before moving over here, I had a sense of humour about it. But it isn't funny, any more than it's funny to laugh at people in wheelchairs or turbans - two targets the likes of Vanessa Feltz are far too pompously PC to take aim at.

I resent in the strongest possible manner the ubiquitous double standard that, on the one hand, allows programmes such as this to praise the "tolerance" that makes incest, blasphemy and psychiatric illness acceptable viewing, and on the other, peddles a line of anti-American propaganda that is no different, and certainly no better, than the isolationist rhetoric of a Hitler or a Mussolini. I'm all in favour of tolerance where it is a product of an educated outlook; but tolerance as a mask for prejudice is despicable.

You have a responsibility as a broadcaster - to paraphrase Lord Reith - to educate, entertain and inform your audience. You do bear part of the responsibility for every single person I will meet tomorrow, and next week, and next year who agreed when they heard Vanessa Feltz say how "cretinous" the people from "that part of America" (that is, my part of America) are. Would you have aired her comments had they been about black people, or Muslims? And, although it's easy to retort that this question is itself somehow prejudiced, that doesn't change the fact that your answer would be no.

Racism doesn't become more acceptable because I speak your language with a "funny" accent; it doesn't become more acceptable because I come from a more moral background than your oh-so-trendy talking heads. It's ugly and it's cowardly and it has no place on television. I hope you bear that in mind in future.

Yours more in sorrow than anger,

Lynn Hall



Do you think this was acceptable to send? Please let me know what you all think of the letter and, if any of you saw the comments on the programme, do you agree? Do you think there should have been some editing or moderating of the comments? I'm still completely flabbergasted and extremely hurt by these comments. Maybe I wouldn't feel so bad about this one incident if I didn't see it on television or in newspapers or on the street every single day! There is not a single day that goes by that I don't have someone make a very rude comment about me either being American or from the Southern US. I don't know how much more I can take of it before I really let someone know exactly how I feel about it!!!! And that won't be pretty!

Thursday, February 03, 2005

Sorry for the long delay between posts.

Let me begin by explaining my last post. You know how for most everyone there's that one person you had a thing for when you were younger. That one who got away, as it were. And, although you completely love the one you're with, you always sort of wonder what happened to that person.

Well, for me that person was Jared. Absolutely crazy about him my senior year of high school. My heart was set on being with him. But he moved in January after I turned 18. I saw him again a year and a half later on the 4th of July, 1998. I haven't seen him since then, but I always wondered what happened to him. I even attempted on a few occasions to find him, all to no avail. I never really got too upset, always thinking that I'd have plenty of time in the future to find him and see how his life had turned out. Now, don't get me wrong, I love Rich completely and would never do anything to jeopardize our marriage, but I did want to see how Jared was. My love for Rich didn't make me stop caring for Jared. It just meant that I cared in a different way.

So, I thought, not to worry. Years from now, I'll find him again and get to meet his wife and children.

But now that will never happen. I found out from my mom (who had seen a relative of Jared's and asked about him) that he had joined the US Marines and had been sent to Iraq. He fought out there for over a year and was doing well (not injured or anything). He came home in May 2004 for his little brother's graduation. The night of the graduation they went out after the ceremony to celebrate and on the way home Jared and his little brother had a car accident.

Jared broke his neck and died. At the age of 24 it was all over. And I will never get the chance to see him again and tell him how proud I was that he got his life straightened out and became someone he could be proud to be.

Even now I feel the need to cry for the loss of a good friend. But life goes on for those of us still here. And Jared was an organ donor, so in the end he did even more good by saving the lives of several people.

So, if you would, take just a moment to have a thought for a man who came from very little, but rose above it and made a huge difference in the lives of many people, including mine. I know I'll never forget him.

To let you know what else has been happening with us lately, we went to the States for Christmas and had a great time (I didn't find out about Jared until I had come back to the UK). Rich really enjoyed Christmas with my family and I know my family loved having us there.

In other news, Rich and I have finally filed for his spousal visa to the US!!! We filed last Friday and hopefully should have an interview date within the next 4 months or so! Cross your fingers for us and I'll keep you posted as we get more information.